Orice p\u0103rinte \u00ee\u0219i dore\u0219te un copil sigur pe sine, care \u0219tie s\u0103 g\u00e2ndeasc\u0103 cu capul lui, dar care s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 echilibrat \u0219i atunci c\u00e2nd lucrurile nu ies a\u0219a cum vrea. Nu e o re\u021bet\u0103 magic\u0103, dar sunt c\u00e2teva principii s\u0103n\u0103toase care pot face diferen\u021ba dintre un copil r\u0103sf\u0103\u021bat \u0219i unul cu adev\u0103rat \u00eencrez\u0103tor \u0219i adaptat la via\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. Valideaz\u0103 emo\u021biile, dar nu orice comportament<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Copiii au nevoie s\u0103 simt\u0103 c\u0103 emo\u021biile lor conteaz\u0103. Dac\u0103 \u00eei spui \u201eNu e mare lucru\u201d sau \u201eNu pl\u00e2nge pentru prostii\u201d, el \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 c\u0103 nu e \u00een regul\u0103 s\u0103 simt\u0103. 2. Ofer\u0103 limite clare \u0219i consecvente<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cencrederea real\u0103 vine din siguran\u021b\u0103, iar siguran\u021ba vine din limite clare. C\u00e2nd copilul \u0219tie regulile \u0219i le vede aplicate constant, se simte protejat, chiar dac\u0103 uneori protesteaz\u0103. 3. \u00cencurajeaz\u0103 \u00eentreb\u0103rile \u0219i curiozitatea<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Un copil cu g\u00e2ndire critic\u0103 nu este cel care \u201e\u0219tie tot\u201d, ci cel care \u00ee\u0219i pune \u00eentreb\u0103ri. Creeaz\u0103 un spa\u021biu unde curiozitatea e binevenit\u0103. 4. Modeleaz\u0103 tu comportamentul<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Copiii nu \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 din discursuri, ci din exemple. Dac\u0103 vrei un copil care nu se d\u0103 cu fundul de p\u0103m\u00e2nt, arat\u0103-i cum tu gestionezi frustr\u0103rile. Dac\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2i calm c\u00e2nd cineva \u00ee\u021bi taie calea \u00een trafic sau c\u00e2nd o situa\u021bie nu merge cum vrei, \u00eei transmi\u021bi c\u0103 autocontrolul e posibil \u0219i valoros.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 5. \u00cenva\u021b\u0103-l diferen\u021ba dintre dorin\u021be \u0219i nevoi<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Un copil cu \u00eencredere \u0219tie c\u0103 nu prime\u0219te tot ce \u00ee\u0219i dore\u0219te, dar \u0219tie c\u0103 nevoile lui de baz\u0103 (siguran\u021b\u0103, iubire, apartenen\u021b\u0103) sunt mereu respectate. Po\u021bi spune: 6. Laud\u0103 efortul, nu doar rezultatul<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 \u00eel \u00eencurajezi doar c\u00e2nd c\u00e2\u0219tig\u0103, el va deveni dependent de succes \u0219i va face crize la primul e\u0219ec. Dac\u0103 \u00eei apreciezi efortul \u2014 \u201eAi muncit mult pentru desenul \u0103sta\u201d \u2014 atunci va \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba c\u0103 valoarea lui nu depinde de aplauze.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pe scurt:<\/strong> Orice p\u0103rinte \u00ee\u0219i dore\u0219te un copil sigur pe sine, care \u0219tie s\u0103 g\u00e2ndeasc\u0103 cu capul lui, dar care s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 echilibrat \u0219i atunci c\u00e2nd lucrurile nu ies a\u0219a cum vrea. Nu e o re\u021bet\u0103 magic\u0103, dar sunt c\u00e2teva principii s\u0103n\u0103toase care pot face diferen\u021ba dintre un copil r\u0103sf\u0103\u021bat \u0219i unul cu adev\u0103rat \u00eencrez\u0103tor \u0219i adaptat… Read More »Cum s\u0103 cre\u0219ti un copil cu \u00eencredere \u0219i g\u00e2ndire critic\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 tantrumuri<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"neve_meta_sidebar":"","neve_meta_container":"","neve_meta_enable_content_width":"","neve_meta_content_width":0,"neve_meta_title_alignment":"","neve_meta_author_avatar":"","neve_post_elements_order":"","neve_meta_disable_header":"","neve_meta_disable_footer":"","neve_meta_disable_title":"","_themeisle_gutenberg_block_has_review":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[31,30],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-615","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-ganduri-despre-si-pentru-parinti","category-psihologia-copilului-si-adolescentului"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lapsihoterapeut.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/615","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lapsihoterapeut.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lapsihoterapeut.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lapsihoterapeut.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lapsihoterapeut.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=615"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lapsihoterapeut.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/615\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":616,"href":"https:\/\/lapsihoterapeut.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/615\/revisions\/616"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lapsihoterapeut.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=615"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lapsihoterapeut.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=615"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lapsihoterapeut.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=615"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\u00cen schimb, po\u021bi spune: \u201e\u00cen\u021beleg c\u0103 e\u0219ti sup\u0103rat c\u0103 nu ai primit ce voiai.\u201d
Astfel \u00eel aju\u021bi s\u0103 recunoasc\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 accepte emo\u021biile, dar s\u0103 nu cread\u0103 c\u0103 pl\u00e2nsul sau tr\u00e2ntitul pe jos sunt solu\u021bia pentru a ob\u021bine ceva.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
De exemplu: \u201e\u00cen\u021beleg c\u0103 vrei \u00eenc\u0103 un episod de desene, dar regula este una pe zi. Alegem \u00eempreun\u0103 care.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dac\u0103 \u00eentreab\u0103 \u201eDe ce cerul e albastru?\u201d, nu te gr\u0103bi cu un r\u0103spuns scurt. Po\u021bi spune: \u201eHai s\u0103 c\u0103ut\u0103m \u00eempreun\u0103.\u201d Astfel \u00eel \u00eenve\u021bi c\u0103 \u00eentreb\u0103rile sunt valoroase \u0219i c\u0103 adev\u0103rul se descoper\u0103, nu se livreaz\u0103 de-a gata.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201e\u0218tiu c\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi dore\u0219ti juc\u0103ria asta, dar acum nu e momentul. Ce \u00ee\u021bi pot oferi mereu este timpul \u0219i aten\u021bia mea.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Un copil cu \u00eencredere \u0219i g\u00e2ndire critic\u0103 nu este cel care ob\u021bine mereu ce vrea, ci acela care \u0219tie cine este, ce poate \u0219i cum s\u0103 gestioneze lumea din jur. Iar asta \u00eencepe cu tine, p\u0103rintele care \u00eel \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 s\u0103 fie puternic, curios \u0219i echilibrat, chiar \u0219i atunci c\u00e2nd se love\u0219te de limite.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"